Caregivers who are (too) young

When a child cares for an ailing parent, we usually think of an adult child caring for an infirm octogenarian. However, recently, the New York Times looked at minor children who care for their middle aged parents. As you might expect, the results are difficult and stressful, especially when financial resources like insurance are scarce and the families have few others to depend on.

Across the country, children are providing care for sick parents or grandparents — lifting frail bodies off beds or toilets, managing medication, washing, feeding, dressing, talking with doctors. Schools, social service agencies and health providers are often unaware of those responsibilities because families members may be too embarrassed, or stoic.

Some children develop maturity and self-esteem. But others grow anxious, depressed or angry, sacrifice social and extracurricular activities and miss — or quit — school.

Educators and social workers try to address the gaps in the lives of those in need. But identifying the families is only the first step. Sometimes, resources are just not at hand.

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